Pride in My Family
The
moment you believe them, you don't appreciate what you have. I hadn't realized
I had a strange family until kindergarten. After that, my family's oddness
seemed to increase with each passing school year.
"Mom,
why is our family different?" I asked in second grade.
"Because
our family is full of love." Her answer didn't make me feel better.
By then,
I had noticed most of the kids in school came from small families. The typical
family size was one to three members. No one had a monstrously large family like
ours: One mom, one dad, and eleven kids. Yup, we were that huge. We couldn't
fit in an average car, traveling everywhere in a used Baptist bus. Do you know
how it feels being dropped off at friends' parties in a rusty bus while
everyone else comes in compact, environmentally friendly cars? The word
humiliated is not a strong enough verb.
But that
wasn't the only thing that made us stand out. Oh, no. We were a "rainbow
family," as Mom liked to call us. Each member of our family came from a
different country. Dad was Egyptian, Mom a New Zealander, my oldest sister was
Guatemalan, and so on. We were all rescues from orphanages or the Department of
Child Services. My brother Tommy was as mean as the neighbor's illegal fighting
Pitbull. I am pretty sure Mom found Tommy in a garbage can.
Even Mom
and Dad had started their lives as orphans.
Everywhere
we went, our large rainbow family stood out. How could we not, in our
predominately Jewish neighborhood?
The more
I noticed our differences, the more I wanted to run away.
I still
remember the day that changed my heart. My fifth-grade teacher stood before the
class with the enthusiasm of a yappy dog barking at their shadow. "Our
school procured a fabulous grant that I cannot wait to tell you about."
"What
do I care about Grant?" I thought and picked up my book Charm and
Strange by Stephanie Kuehn. I loved a good mystery. I could be a private
detective one day. I would confidently walk into a crime scene like a Doberman
Pinscher, commanding the attention of all around. Then, even more brilliantly,
I would...
"Cedella,"
the teacher said. I looked up. Her hands rested on her hips, and she had that
teacher look; cross and disappointed.
I
stared. What did she want?
"Cedella,
let me repeat the question. Do you know what race you are?"
I
slumped in my chair. Why would the teacher ask me that in front of the class? I
darted my eyes around the room. Yup, I was the only dark-skinned student in
there. At least the teacher was dark like me.
"I
am black," I whispered.
A few
kids giggled.
"That
isn't your race, stupid," Heather said as her red braids swayed back and
forth.
"Now,
Heather, let's not call names." The teacher turned to me. Her voice
softened to kindness.
"Do
you know your bloodline? Black is an adjective, not a race."
My eyes
dropped to my lap. I was already a freak. Why did she have to point it out?
"I
know my race," Heather said. Her declarative statement came out snappy and
short. "I am Irish."
"Irish
is a good race," my teacher said. She smiled at Heather and then turned to
the class.
"Most
of us don't know where we came from. So how do we know where to go? As I was
saying, the grant given to us will give all of you a chance to discover your
heritage. In other words, what races you are made up of. Consider it a mystery.
One in which you uncover the secrets of your ancestors."
"Ohh,"
came the death moans of many of my classmates. I, too, might have sulked with
them if the teacher hadn't said the word that had hooked me.
"Mystery."
I loved
mysteries. Besides, maybe I should discover where I came from.
That
night, the entire family gathered together. That usually only happened for
weddings or funerals.
"Gather
family, gather," I called out as my family assembled into our too-tight
family room. I clapped my hands and jumped up and down as I tried to contain my
excitement. The smell of Mom's meat pie still hung in the air, and I wished
there had been enough to make me full. What took everyone so long?
The
family slowly entered, a few siblings mumbling under their breath.
"Hello,
hello," I said. "Please sit."
"Why
do you look like a dork?" Angelica, my fifteen-year-old sister, asked.
"Oh,
this?" I said as my hand passed over my trench coat and top hat. They had
a plasticky feel to them. Too bad they weren't real leather. "My name is
Detective Cedella, and I have a mystery to solve."
-More
grumbles.
I began,
imagining myself with the lead part in a play. "Long time ago, in a
faraway land, each of us was born. But who are we, really? Some of us know
little about our biological parents, and some of us don't even know what
culture we are."
Brandon,
my nine-year-old brother, bowed his head and looked at his lap. He had Asian
features, but no one knew his race. He hated that.
I paced
back and forth, my face emotionless, playing the part of a big-time detective.
"I
will pass out my top-secret vials, which you will fill with spit."
"Eww!"
My sisters said, squirming.
"Right
on," were my brothers' reactions.
I handed
out the containers to each family member.
"How
is spitting into this going to help me discover my race?" Brandon asked.
His forehead tightened, and he looked skeptical."
"Well,
you see, some guy name Grant gave our teacher lots of money to give each member
of our families access to DNA testing." I switched my stance and deepened
my voice. "With your spit, ladies and gentlemen of the jury, we will see
exactly where you came from. We will trace your lineage--"
"Lineage,"
Mom corrected.
"What
does that mean?" Angelica asked.
"Kind
of like your family line," Mom answered.
"Come
on, people. Let us not waste any more time. Give me your spit, and Detective
Cedella will trace your race."
***
I mailed
off our saliva samples and spent the first week checking my daily email for
results. I couldn't wait for our family to know where we came from. But as the
days passed and no email came, I forgot about the DNA tests.
Then,
two months later, the email arrived. With my detective outfit on, I poured over
the results of our tests. I was disappointed that the results put us in general
regions of a continent but didn't say, "Brandon, you are Japanese."
I hadn't
expected the test to link me directly to biological family members. The test
matched Brandon to a first cousin, and he learned he was Korean.
I
contacted my biological mom and learned I was full Jamaican. My birth family
didn't feel ready to unite with me, but they gave me several pages of my family
line.
I
finally had an identity, which made me feel valuable.
Every
birthday after that, Mom made sure we celebrated our birthdays in the
traditions of our origins. She helped us learn more about our race and each
other's. She united our differences and celebrated our similarities.
As I learned more about our extraordinary origins, I found pride in my rainbow family. Those other kids at school only had one or two races to celebrate. Our family celebrated half of the world's races.
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Pride in my Family
by Stephanie Daich
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